on the Book of the Month
When John told me he had
reviewed Created to Be His Help Meet,
I thought it would be interesting to get a wife’s perspective on the
book. I think it is a valuable book for any wife to read, whether
she is a believer or not. However, if you do not believe that the
Bible is God’s inspired Word, you may have a difficult time
accepting the wisdom and soundness the book contains.
What I appreciate most about the book is the unapologetic
presentation of God’s view of marriage and the relationship God
intends for husband and wife to have. I think it takes spiritual
courage to write a book like this, and I commend Debi Pearl for
doing it. The world has changed so much since Bible times, and many,
if not most wives and mothers have jobs/careers. This makes their
roles as wives and mothers much more challenging. Human nature has
not changed however, and neither has God or His will for our lives.
I believe God’s Word tells us in many places what God expects of
married women both in the New Testament and the Old Testament.
God has told us to be in submission to our husbands. Countless books
have been written about what that means and does not mean. Debi
Pearl’s book addresses the heart of the matter — are we, as wives,
in submission to God? Are we seeking and wanting to do God’s will
more than our own? Or, do we seek to rationalize our refusal to
follow God’s plan for marriage because times have changed or our
circumstances are hard or our husband is failing?
This book was not written to address extreme situations in marriage
where outside help may be required. Pearl is writing to challenge
every wife to look at God’s plan for marriage, and to seriously
evaluate whether or not she is living in conformity and harmony with
God’s will (not hers or her interpretation of God’s will). God says
if we want to know His will and are willing to follow it, we can
Another thing I appreciate about this book is its emphasis on
prayer. No one can understand and do God’s will without prayer — it
is impossible. We can know God’s will by reading His Word; but,
changing our mind, heart, and actions to conform to His will takes
This book also contains many practical do’s and don’ts for wives and
many real life examples and stories. I highly recommend it.
— Cynthia Clayton
Photo: Patty Gibson
to Contents Does God Exist?, JulAug11.