Book Review title

Created to Be His Help Meet
by Debi Pearl
Greater Joy Ministries, Inc., (,
2004, 297 pages, $14.95 (paperback), ISBN-13: 978-1-892112-60-6

The cover of this book says the book will help you “Discover how God can make your marriage glorious.” This is a book designed for Christian women who have a desire to make their marriages what God intended for marriage to be. The view is very biblical, very fundamental, and very politically incorrect. The “help meet” concept will rub some feminists wrong, but the best summary of what the book is about is a short paragraph Debi Pearl has on page 20:

“As you have probably discovered, you didn’t just marry ‘the right man’ and live happily ever after. Every man I know is a bona fide sinner. And, considering that you, too, are a selfish, fallen creature, it will take real effort to make a heavenly marriage. A good marriage, just like anything worthwhile, takes doing the right things every day … every hour … every moment.”

The book is divided into 24 chapters which are in two sections. The first is titled “The Help Meet” and discusses the biblical concept of marriage and what a woman’s role is in marriage. The second section is titled “Titus 2” and discusses specific things for wives to do. Pearl writes very well. She is engaging, open, fair, and gets to real issues. Sex is discussed fairly and accurately and the needs of men and women are handled well. The things that cause pitfalls in marriage are handled well. There are times when the book is very blunt, and some may be offended by that. The purpose stated at the end of the book is:

“Somewhere over the passing years and changing culture, women lost their way. This book is written to lead back home. Regardless of how you began your marriage or how dark and lonely the path that has brought you into where you are now, I want you to know that it is possible today to have a marriage so good and so fulfilling that it can only be explained as a miracle.”

The book does a good job of helping people achieve that goal. It is divided in such a way that it could be used as a class study, and it would be very useful in counseling engaged couples. We recommend this book to Christians who have an interest in the biblical concept of marriage.

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